How to recapture the feeling of first love after seven years? Hardness is key.

**Article 26**

How to rekindle the feeling of first love after the seven-year itch?

**Case Study**

**Name: Chen Min (pseudonym), 42 years old**

**Region: Beijing**

**Occupation: Senior Technical Executive at a Multinational IT Company**

Chen Min is physically fit and has a refined demeanor. He holds a senior technical position at a well-known multinational IT company, where he is highly valued. In his personal life, he enjoys a harmonious marriage and has a sweet and adorable 10-year-old daughter. To those around him, Chen Min represents the epitome of a successful and accomplished individual, possessing all the elements of a perfect life.

Mr. Chen cherishes his work and life, his only regret stemming from his sex life. While he doesn't suffer from erectile dysfunction or impotence, after over a decade of marriage, the couple has become like the left hand holding the right-their sex life has lost its novelty and excitement. Mr. Chen feels that sex is becoming increasingly routine, and he can't distinguish whether his wife's moans during intimacy are genuine pleasure or just going through the motions. How to make sex more passionate and enhance his wife's experience is Mr. Chen's biggest concern.

Guo Yinglu, Academician of the Chinese Academy of Engineering and Director of the Andrology Center at Peking University First Hospital: It is understood that there are quite a few men like Mr. Chen, who are successful in both life and work, but have some inexplicable shortcomings in achieving perfect sex. They don't have actual erectile dysfunction, yet they always seem to fall short of perfect sex. Many people believe that sex is a black-and-white matter, divided into two categories: "good" and "bad." Those who "bad" naturally need treatment to improve, but even among those who "good," there is actually a distinction between "dry, routine sex" and truly "perfect, harmonious sex."

The leap from simply completing sexual intercourse to enjoying a perfect sexual experience represents a qualitative leap in personal feelings and quality of life. It is actually not difficult to achieve. As long as you understand the secrets of sex and grasp the key to sexual happiness, everyone can achieve perfect sex.

What exactly is this secret? Actually, it's not mysterious at all; the key lies in whether a man can get an erection. As early as the 22nd European Urological Congress in 2007, top urologists and andrologists from around the world reached a consensus: "Good erectile rigidity equals a more perfect sex life."

Hardness Creates Perfect Sex: Sexual satisfaction has absolutely no relation to the length or girth of the penis or the width or depth of the vagina. During intercourse, a woman's erogenous zones are the clitoris, labia minora, and the outer third of the vagina. Therefore, a woman's sexual satisfaction is primarily related to the firmness of the male's erection and the duration of intercourse, and has little to do with the shape, size, or length of the penis.

Studies on erectile dysfunction and sexual performance show that at a level 3 erection, men's sexual satisfaction rate is 70%, while women's is 50%. At a level 4 erection, men's sexual satisfaction rate is 90%, and women's is 85%.

During sex, men are often more proactive, while their partners are more reserved and won't directly point out the problem. When this happens, men shouldn't avoid the topic or blame their wives; a simple self-test can help them find the root of the issue.

You can perform a self-assessment using the Erectile Hardness Rating Scale (EHS) below, and then consult a professional urologist for appropriate treatment.

Grade 1, penile enlargement but not hardening indicates severe erectile dysfunction;

Grade 2, insufficient rigidity for vaginal penetration, is considered moderate erectile dysfunction.

Grade 3, able to penetrate the vagina but not maintain an erection, indicates mild erectile dysfunction;

Grade 4: Firm penile erection indicates normal erectile function.