The content of sex education for adult men and the causes and treatment of fetishism

**II. Sexual Psychological Disorders**

[Sex Education for Adult Men] Adult men also need to receive scientific sex education, which has two implications for their lives and families: first, as recipients of education, they need to continue receiving sex education; second, as educators of future generations, they also need to receive sex education.

(1) Help adult men build happy family life through sex education.

Information about sex should be provided to adult men in a timely manner.

For example, understanding the differences between men and women in their psychological preparation for sex, their ways of expressing themselves, and their respective expectations; understanding the physiological and psychological changes that occur as couples age; knowing that marital happiness depends not only on successful sex life but also on communication and adjustment in the spiritual and emotional relationship; and knowing to seek help from appropriate departments when cracks or crises appear in the marriage.

(2) Education on sexual morality for adult men.

Different eras, societies, cultures, and ethnic groups have their own specific regulations on sexual morality.

On the one hand, it relies on relevant laws and regulations to define it; on the other hand, it is also necessary to improve people's moral standards and regulate their sexual morality through various forms of education.

Although people's sexual attitudes are constantly progressing, there are still many sexual and moral problems in real life, such as discrimination against women, domestic violence, extramarital affairs, child abandonment, and various forms of "gender wars," which must be addressed gradually through sex education.

(3) Sexual health education for adult men.

The purpose of sex education in this area is to ensure people's reproductive health, prevent and control various sexually transmitted diseases, and disseminate all health care knowledge and information related to sex.

(4) Adult men who have children should learn how to provide sex education to their children.

[Fetishism] People with fetishism are mostly men. They are characterized by not having a direct interest in or sexual attraction to the female body, but having a strong interest in and sexual attraction to certain female items such as a strand of hair, underwear, bra, socks, headscarf, shoes, etc.

These patients often steal women's clothing and hide it in their own boxes, sometimes as many as dozens or even hundreds of pieces.

The purpose of stealing is to obtain sexual satisfaction. Sometimes, the person takes the clothing of the opposite sex, looks at it, smells it, and masturbates to obtain sexual pleasure.

Fetishism is mainly treated with psychotherapy, and generally the treatment is quite effective.

(1) Counseling therapy: Based on the severity of the patient's condition, the psychologist uses accurate, vivid and friendly language to analyze the root cause and formation process of the fetish, as well as the nature and characteristics of the fetish, so that the patient can have a correct understanding of their condition, thereby improving their determination to treat the disease, strengthening their confidence, and achieving the goal of treatment.

(2) Cognitive insight therapy: Through the patient's recollection of the disease process, the doctor finds the root cause and then helps the patient analyze and explain the harm of fetishistic behavior.

(3) Aversion therapy: When a patient develops a fetishistic desire, give him a vicious stimulus, such as snapping a rubber band against the patient's wrist to make him feel pain, thereby controlling the desire until the pathological phenomenon disappears.

[Homosexuality] Homosexuality refers to sexual attraction to someone of the same sex.

If we use the standards of mental health to measure the behavior and psychology of homosexuals, it is clear that their behavior and psychology have exceeded the scope of normal healthy sexual behavior and psychology.

Homosexuality can occur in both men and women. It is characterized by a lack of interest in, or even aversion to, the opposite sex, while exhibiting affection or even infatuation towards, the same sex.

There is a "heterosexual effect" in interactions between the sexes. That is to say, when men and women interact, especially when they are attractive men and women, both parties tend to respond more positively and emotionally.

Homosexuals lack this "opposite-sex effect".

On the contrary, they often feel an irresistible aversion to the opposite sex, while they have an uncontrollable passion and impulse towards the same sex.

Homosexuality exists in a certain number of people and in a certain environment, and its proportion is not reduced by strict prohibition or increased by tolerance and indulgence in society.

In environments lacking members of the opposite sex, homosexuality often serves as a substitute for sexual gratification.

The places where homosexuals meet and find partners are mostly public toilets and bathhouses, followed by gay bars and dance halls.

Both parties confirm their identity through the stimulation response of their genitals. When choosing a partner, they focus on the other person's appearance, temperament, speech and manners, rather than their profession and social status.

Homosexual couples primarily engage in relationships for recreational purposes rather than for marriage. Their sexual activities involve both partners being active and passive, and common sexual behaviors include mutual masturbation, oral sex, and anal sex, as well as touching, kissing, and hugging.

Homosexuals are unwilling to marry heterosexuals because they feel their status within the homosexual community would be diminished if they were to marry.

However, due to pressure from parents, social opinion, and the Chinese cultural concept of carrying on the family line, most homosexuals have to get married after living a homosexual life for 2 to 3 years. Men often choose women who are indifferent to sex and have very little sexual desire as wives, and their sex life with their wives is very difficult.

When a wife discovers that her husband is engaging in homosexual behavior, she generally doesn't take it seriously and doesn't consider it an affair but rather a bad habit.

If the wife has normal sexual desires and finds it difficult to comply with her husband's indifference, their sex life will be difficult to be harmonious, and most homosexual couples will divorce.

Divorce is for the sake of gaining an undisturbed single life.

[Marginalized Homosexuality] Although people have become more tolerant of homosexuality in recent years, this social phenomenon is still contrary to common sense and cannot be accepted by most people.

Moreover, according to Chinese values, homosexuality is, to some extent, a psychological defect.

In fact, many homosexuals are still unable to accept their real selves and their psychological state, so they often adopt a vague and secretive attitude.

From the psychological conflicts of some homosexuals, we can see that those trapped in homosexuality also have their own hardships.

Psychological research shows that some people may appear to be homosexual, but from the perspective of their physiological or psychological needs, it is only a transitional pseudo-homosexuality.

This group of people has many things in common: after entering puberty, the sexual drive and the instinct to crave love make them restless, but due to various reasons, such as failed relationships, or the awakening of sexual awareness, strong impulses of sexual desire and the various physical and psychological reactions that follow, they have to control these inner impulses and must take measures to conceal them.

But the more people try to control these impulses, the more prominent they become in their self-awareness.

Therefore, when they suppressed their primal urges but failed to achieve sublimation, they chose a lifestyle similar to homosexuality, and went beyond the more acceptable forms of friendship, resulting in mutual hugging, kissing, touching, and even imitating homosexual sexual intercourse to satisfy their physical and psychological needs for love and being loved.

Homosexuals who are troubled by desire and anxiety and are eager to establish intimate relationships with others to escape emotional loneliness often enter the "marginal" of homosexuality. Because they are troubled by this unstable, insecure, and unacceptable relationship, they are often in greater pain.