What to whisper in bed and what to add to a kiss

What should you say in bed?

According to the results of an informal survey, women don't like men to display virility; they want men to genuinely enjoy sex. Women want sex to be a relaxed, romantic, and intimate experience, not like completing a task with a set goal. Therefore, the sexual techniques men discuss in bars won't win over women lying in their rooms waiting for intimacy. Here are the findings of this survey:

Don't be overly concerned about orgasms. One woman said, "I really wish men didn't care so much about whether a woman orgasms. For me, the intimacy, closeness, and sharing during sex is enough. Yes, orgasms are certainly pleasurable, but they're not everything." Another said, "Without orgasms as a goal, I don't know how many men know how to have sex; they can't accept that sex itself can be satisfying."

Less movement can bring more pleasure. Most men just want to keep moving after penetration, like a piston never missing a chance to start. But women crave variety. So when you're making love, try rotating movements, sometimes slower, sometimes faster. Women need flirting and teasing. Some say teasing and flirting are another way to reach orgasm; others say, take your time, quick sex always feels like a solo act for the man, why not enjoy it together?

Maintain hygiene. A two-day-old stubble and garlic breath are both unbearable. One woman said, "A shower and a shave can enhance sexual pleasure." "I would never have sex with a savage." Another woman agreed.

Help your partner express her true desires. Many women are still shy about expressing their sexual desires, or afraid of hurting a man's ego. How can a man encourage his partner to say what kind of sex she truly enjoys? Asking, "What do you like?" is ineffective. Instead, try, "I like you to play with my chest hair. How would you like me to treat you?"

Take turns initiating contact. Many women admit they want to be more proactive, but are too shy to do so, or fear that being too forward will lead to unexpected consequences. One woman said, "I want to initiate sex with him, but I'm still too shy to do it. So I have to make sure he wants to have sex with me first." Both partners can initiate contact and seduce each other. Donop also said, "In sex, no one wants to always be the one initiating contact, nor is anyone content to always be a passive recipient."

Explore the whole body. Many women do need genital stimulation, but they don't want their man to touch that area right away. They want him to explore other erogenous zones first, then slowly approach the clitoris. Hands, arms, joints, and other areas are also erogenous zones, as are the head, feet, legs, and chest-in fact, the whole body needs to be explored. So during sex, try exploring the whole body in different ways. You can massage vigorously or caress gently. After kissing, teasing, and caressing, then press that "sex start button"!

Don't worry about the size of your genitals. Penis size isn't significantly related to sexual performance. One woman boldly described it: "If the penis is too big, it will cause discomfort every time it enters and exits a woman. A man's penis should be of moderate size." Other women share the same view: "For those gifted men, they must learn how not to cause discomfort to women."

Make women feel special. Psychologists believe that feeling respected and loved is the most effective way to achieve sexual satisfaction. In fact, a lack of libido often stems from resentment. If a woman feels dominated and controlled, and that her partner isn't listening to her, she will naturally avoid sex. Refusal is a woman's supreme right. Doctors say, "If a man doesn't say intimate things to a woman during sex, she will feel used." At the same time, men must constantly praise women to boost their confidence. Dr. Barbey says that even women with good figures appreciate sweet words and support. In our culture, women place great importance on appearance, so you need to tell women they are sexy, and be as specific as possible. For example, listen to what this woman says: "The most beautiful moment in my memory is when he told me that my sexy hair flowing over his shoulder made his heart flutter, and that I had a great figure." The doctor analyzed: "Pursuing love with your partner is a lifelong commitment. Occasionally bringing small gifts and cards, giving her sexy lingerie, and calling her often-these small gestures can enhance the relationship. Moreover, according to our research, these small gestures of courtship are quite effective in arousing a woman's passion."

Enjoy yourself! If sex is only about getting a woman to orgasm, then sexual activity becomes increasingly formulaic, and formulaic sex doesn't contribute to sexual pleasure. Before pleasing your partner, enjoy yourself first to maximize the benefits. It may sound contradictory, but it's true. Sex is like a comedy. Have you ever seen a clown performing on stage? He looks pathetic but tries desperately to make the audience laugh-it's utterly pathetic. In sex therapy, doctors never teach men sexual techniques. Having techniques makes men move like machines, striving for orgasm but failing to achieve true satisfaction. Relax and enjoy yourself first; this will lead to greater sexual interest, desire, and enjoyment for both of you.

What seasonings should you add to a kiss?

If you're unsure whether your kiss will leave a lasting impression on a woman or be quickly forgotten, our informal survey below might offer some insights. We interviewed a group of women to evaluate men's kissing skills and provide suggestions for improvement. First, let's look at how women criticize men who lack kissing skills.

Type G men: These men are as secretive as government officials, revealing nothing. We suggest that when kissing, their lips should be slightly parted and upturned to create a gentle feeling for their partner. If a man keeps his lips tightly closed during a kiss, it will make his partner feel pressured and tense.

The Dentist Type: Some men enjoy using their tongue to examine your molars and explore your tonsils. Choking is perhaps the most serious side effect of this type of kiss. Therefore, we suggest that a light kiss is lovely, but submerging your entire tongue in your partner's mouth is torture; it can be used occasionally as a prelude to teasing. But please remember to use the tip of your tongue most often-that's the most sensual part.

The "childish" type of man: This type of man wants to drown you in saliva, which will make you so angry you'll want to hit him with a rolled-up newspaper. Sometimes wet kisses are very tempting, but when they're so wet that both of you have to take another shower, it becomes disgusting! This type of man should slow down his courtship and save his saliva, especially when kissing the ears.

Dead Fish Type Man: This type of man is extremely shy and kisses listlessly. The typical criticism from women is: no fun, no inspiration. Forget it! This kind of man should just go play video games.

The "Oral Rape" Man: This type of man will rub your lips with his teeth, use anything at hand to hurt you, and bite hard. Passion is one thing, but aggression is another. Experts believe that the biggest problem with men's kissing isn't their ability, but their attitude. Too many men treat kissing as foreplay, with intercourse still being the main event, so they rush through the kissing part. This is wrong. Here's an appeal: Gentlemen, please use your soft lips to caress your partner's skin! Kissing can arouse emotions, and to prolong the atmosphere of love, kissing must be sustained. Some women like deep, long kisses, while others prefer short, continuous light kisses. Most respondents agreed that the most memorable sexual experience is when a man takes the time to kiss his partner. When men rush through the kissing phase, leaving the woman with a clear idea of ​​what he's going to do next, sex becomes dull and boring. Observe your partner's reaction and respond accordingly. She usually gives you what she wants. Passionate kisses fall somewhere between a dead fish kiss and a mouth rape kiss; too much or too little is not good. Use more gentleness and tongue movements, but don't be as exaggerated as a G-type man or a childlike man. Your partner will let you know which kissing style suits her best.

Don't be shy to explore! Yes, a woman's tongue is very sensitive, but her ears, neck, inner forearms, and inner knees are also very sensitive. In addition to her lips, gently biting with your teeth, licking with your tongue, or simply breathing warm air onto her sensitive areas can ignite your partner's passion.